Vow Renewal Sample Ceremonies

Below are several ceremonies that have been used for “Marriage Renewal Ceremonies.”  As you look through them, you may find one that meets all your expectations, with or without some minor changes. Or, you may find that “mixing and matching” the various ceremonies allows you to use the “best” of each to make one ceremony that meets your requirements.

Keep in mind that the wording, readings and celebrations (candle lighting, Unity ceremonies, etc.) are suggestions. Any can be changed to reflect your thoughts and feelings. I will be glad to consult and work with you to come up with a ceremony that is “just the way you want it!” But, the following words and ceremonies should give you some ideas to guide you in creating just the ceremony you desire! Four ceremonies are included below.

VOW RENEWAL SAMPLE CEREMONY 1

Wife and Husband, When you first joined hands and hearts in marriage ___ years ago, you did not know where life would take you.

You promised to love, honor and cherish one another through all things. Life has surely brought you both wonderful blessings and difficult challenges over the years.

But here you are today, having fulfilled the vows to love, honor and cherish you each made on your wedding day.  And God is smiling!

As you celebrate here today, and as you reflect back over all the years as husband and wife, do you now wish to reaffirm the vows you took ___ years ago?  WE DO!

Please face each other and join hands.

RENEWAL OF VOWS    Husband, will you continue to have Wife as your wife and continue to live in this happy and loving marriage?

Husband: I WILL

Do you reaffirm your love for her, and will you love, honor and cherish her in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her for as long as you both shall live?

Husband: I DO

Wife, will you continue to have Husband as your husband and continue to live in this happy and loving marriage?

Wife: I WILL

Do you reaffirm your love for him, and will you love, honor and cherish him in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him for as long as you both shall live? Wife: I DO

(ALTHOUGH WE CAN DO IT ANYWHERE, THIS MIGHT BE A GOOD PLACE FOR YOU EACH TO SAY/READ SOMETHING PREPARED ABOUT OR TO EACH OTHER IF YOU’D LIKE….OR, YOU COULD DO THAT elsewhere, WHERE YOU THINK IT WOULD “FIT IN.” ALSO, THE VOWS ABOVE––OR SIMILAR VOWS—COULD BE SPOKEN BY THE COUPLE INSTEAD OF SAYING “I DO” AT THE END.

Some couples like to include an exchange of rings (new rings, or original wedding rings) or a reference to rings in the ceremony. There are several different symbolic acts that can be interchanged, if desired. Following is a ring exchange and “reference.” Both can (or will be) be worded differently depending on how (if) you wish to commemorate the rings during the ceremony. 

Wife and Husband, On your wedding day you exchanged rings as a symbol of the never-ending circle that symbolizes the eternal quality of God, unending strength, and unending love!.

May you always wear your rings as a reminder of your wedding vows to each other, and your commitment to continue to live in unity, love and happiness. (If not “re-exchanging rings skip to “reference.”)To remind you of that commitment made on your wedding day, you will now renew your pledge.

Husband, please place your gift of a ring on Wife’s hand with the words, With this ring I renew my pledge of love and commitment

Wife, please place your gift of a ring on Husband’s hand with the words, With this ring I renew my pledge of love and commitment

“Reference”  

God bless these rings and the two who exchanged them in love on their wedding day. Keep Wife and Husband safe in the circle of Your protection and love.

READING AND BLESSING OF COUPLES

Marriage is a commitment to learning to care for one another in mutually fulfilling ways.  It is not an act but a life-long relationship always in the making.

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.  

Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

  Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

  When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.

Marriage is a promise made in the hearts of two people who love each other and the potential of marriage requires a lifetime to fulfill.

OPTIONAL SECTIONS: Some couples include one or both, some none, of the following sections.

Wife and Husband have expressed to me how blessed they have been to enjoy ___ years of marriage.  Their fondest wish is that all of the married couples here today, each of you very special friends or relatives, be (a part of) (included in) this ceremony celebrating love and marriage. We would like all married couples to please rise and stand alongside your spouse………………

At this time, we offer a special blessing upon all married couples celebrating with Husband and Wife here today.

May they be blessed with the guidance, strength and direction to make their relationship grow and blossom in the years ahead.  May their home be blessed with joy and happiness, and may they strive together to make their hopes and dreams come true.

Most of all, we ask that all couples be blessed by the love and support of family and friends as they continue life together as husband and wife.

And, from this day forth, may their worries be few, may their joys be many, and may their love grow more abundantly with each passing day. Amen.

Optional involvement of children: (In place of, or in addition to the section above, some couples “update” their marriage renewal by including their children in the ceremony. That can be done, when desired, in many ways, from simply having the children “stand” with the parents during the ceremony, to including/mentioning the children in the ceremony. Again, many choices and variations are possible. One of many is below:

One of the great blessings of marriage is the joy and responsibility of raising a family. Wife and Husband have truly been blessed to be the parents of _______(and) _______

As Wife and Husband renew their vows of marriage today, they also renew their commitment to be loving and caring parents to _______(and)__________, recognizing with gratefulness the the happiness and fulfillment that ________(and)____________ (has, have) brought to their marriage and family life.

PRONOUNCEMENT

Husband and Wife, today you have renewed the promises and vows you made to each other on your wedding day.  You have symbolized the renewal of the marriage union by the joining of hands, the taking of vows, and by exchanging of rings

It is with pleasure that I conclude the ceremony of renewing the vows of marriage that joined you and forever binds you as husband and wife. Please celebrate this renewal of vows with a sign of affection…. You may kiss!

VOW  RENEWAL SAMPLE CEREMONY 2

Husband and Wife, it is a pleasure to share today’s very special occasion with you.

Many people believe that entering into marriage is the final step in a romantic relationship. As they see it, a couple meets, gets to know each other, falls in love, decides they want to go through life together, and then take the final step—marriage.

But marriage is not meant to be the final step in a couple’s relationship—it is really just the beginning of a grand adventure, which hopefully, will be long and fruitful for each couple.

You have shared the joys, blessings, and yes, the challenges, of married life for _______ years. And, today you wish to reconfirm your commitment to working together to make your marriage grow and blossom in the years to come.  May this ceremony, renewing the vows you took to become husband and wife on your wedding day, remind you that despite the stresses inevitable in every life, your love, respect, trust and understanding of each other will continue to increase your contentment and heighten your joy in living.

Please join hands.

Husband, will you continue to have Wife as your wife and continue to live in this marriage? (I WILL)

Do you reaffirm your love for her, and will you love, honor and cherish her in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live? (I DO)

Wife, will you continue to have Husband as your husband and continue to live in this marriage? (I WILL)

Do you reaffirm your love for him, and will you love, honor and cherish him in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live? (I DO)

  Bible Reading from Corinthians: (any variety of readings can be substituted here)

Love endures and is kind.

Love is not envious or jealous.

Love wants not for itself.

Love is not puffed up, nor does it behave wrongly.

Love seeks not for it’s own.

Love is not easily provoked.

Love is not rude.

Love thinks No evil.

Love does not rejoice in wrong, but dwells in the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, endures all things, and love never fails.

On your wedding day you exchanged rings as a symbol of the never-ending circle of love. Rings serve as a reminder of your wedding vows to each other, and your commitment to live in unity, love and happiness. At this time, it is appropriate to reconfirm the meaning of the rings you wear.

Please join your left hands together so that Husband’s hand is on top. Husband, please repeat after me…………………

Wife, I wear this ring you placed on my hand————- as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.

Now, with Wife’s hand on top, Wife please repeat after me:

Husband, I wear this ring you placed on my hand——–as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.

I ask that you each remember to continue to cherish each other as special and unique individuals and that you each respect the thoughts and ideas of one another. And most of all, be able to forgive each other, and not hold grudges against one another. Live each day in love with each other, always being there to give love, comfort, and refuge to each other, in good times and bad.

Husband and Wife, today you have renewed the promises and vows you made to each other on your wedding day.  You have symbolized the renewal of the marriage union by the joining of hands, the taking of vows, and by the wearing of your wedding rings.

It is with pleasure that I conclude the ceremony of renewing the vows of marriage that joined you and binds you as husband and wife. Please celebrate this renewal of vows with a kiss!

VOW RENEWAL SAMPLE CEREMONY 3

The Union of husband and wife is one of the heart, mind, and body and is intended (by the Lord) for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given to one another in the times of prosperity and adversity. The union grows as the couple becomes one in more and more ways on a growing basis as their love for one another expands.

____________________& ___________________ life is given to us as individuals and the first lesson we must learn as a married couple is how to live together with each other. Love is given to us by our family and friends; we learn to love by being loved. Learning to love and learning to live together is one of life’s greatest challenges. That is the goal of a married life.

But the husband and wife should not confuse the love of worldly measures, for even if worldly success is found; only love can hold a marriage together. Mankind did not create love; God created love and teaches it to us. The measure of a true love is one given freely and a love that is freely accepted, just as God’s love for us is given freely and unconditional. Today is a glorious day that God has made as you reaffirm your love and vows for each other. Both of you are blessed with God’s greatest gift of all, an abiding and true love of each other, and the reward of a lifelong companionship that entered your life through the love in your lives. As you travel through this life together remember it was love that got you here, it is love that will continue in your lives, and it is love that will cause this union to endure. I ask that you guard your heart and your love for one another, and hold it tightly in your hearts.

The minister asks the couple to join hands and continues with the Vows.

___________________________will you continue to have _________________________ as your husband and continue to live in this marriage. Do you reaffirm your love for him, and will you love him, keep him, and honor him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you shall live?

___________________________will you continue to have _________________________ as your wife and continue to live in this marriage. Do you reaffirm your love for her, and will you love her, keep her, and honor her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you shall live?

The Minister then asks for the rings. The minister then prays a prayer of blessing over the givers and receivers of each of the rings.

The minister then hands the rings to each. The minister then asks the husband to place the ring on her finger and repeat the following.

I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, with all that I am and all that I have I honor you, and with this ring I thee wed.

The minister then asks the wife to place the ring on his finger and repeat the following.

I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, with all that I am and all that I have I honor you, and with this ring I thee wed.

The minister then gives the charge:

___________________ & ____________________ as the two of you both now reaffirm you love for each other and the vows you made to each other many years ago, I charge that you each remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals and that you each respect the thoughts and ideas of one another. And most all be able to forgive each other, and not hold grudges against one another, and I charge that you live each day in love with each other, always being there to give love, comfort, and refuge to each in good times and bad. Amen.

The minister makes the Pronouncement & Announcement:

Since ________________________&_____________________ have now exchanged vows and rings, and pledged their love and faith for each other, it is my pleasure and honor to pronounce you Man & Wife. You may kiss the bride.

I am pleased to announce Mr.  & Mrs. ____________________________________.

VOW RENEWAL SAMPLE CEREMONY 4

Husband and Wife…

Today you have chosen to reconfirm your commitment to continue working together to make your marriage grow and blossom in the years to come.

May this ceremony, renewing the vows you took to become husband and wife on your wedding day, remind you that despite the inevitable stresses which occur in every life, your love, respect, trust and understanding of each other will increase your contentment and heighten your joy in living as husband and wife.

Please face each other and join hands.

RENEWAL OF VOWS

Husband, will you continue to have Wife as your wife and continue to live in this happy and loving marriage?

Husband: I WILL

Do you reaffirm your love for her, and will you love, honor and cherish her in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her for as long as you both shall live?

Husband: I DO

Wife, will you continue to have Husband as your husband and continue to live in this happy and loving marriage?

Wife: I WILL

Do you reaffirm your love for him, and will you love, honor and cherish him in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better for worse, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him for as long as you both shall live?

Wife: I DO

READING

  From Colossians 3, verses 12 to 17

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also [do] ye.
And above all these things [put on] charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.

THE MARRIAGE VESSEL AND THE ROSE CEREMONY

Marriage is a commitment to learning to care for one another in mutually fulfilling ways.  It is not an act but a life-long relationship always in the making. 

GROWING TOGETHER

Husband and Wife, as you share each passing day and as your days become years, may you continue to celebrate this tradition to remind one another of your love and commitment to each other.

Let the marriage vessel and the rose continue to be a symbol of the beauty and strength you bring to each other.  And, on your wedding anniversaries, may you add an additional rose to this marriage vessel in affirmation and renewal of your ever-growing love for one another.

 

READING

In so doing, contemplate these beautiful, ancient and wise words:

 

You and I have so much love

That it burns like a fire

In which we bake a lump of clay

Molded into a figure of you

And a figure of me.

Then we take both of them

And break them into pieces

And mix the pieces with water

And mold again a figure of you,

And a figure of me.

I am in your clay.  You are in my clay…

 A BLESSING

May you now go forth together in the love of God.  Go forth with hope and joy and a heart full of dreams.  Continue to give and to receive and to share.  For the old things have passed away and a new heaven and a new earth are now your dwelling place.

Go and live with joy, peace, and love.

Amen.

Husband and Wife, today you have renewed the promises and vows you made to each other on your wedding day.  You have symbolized the renewal of the marriage union by the joining of hands, the taking of vows, and by the symbolism of the vessel and rose ceremony.

It is with pleasure that I conclude the ceremony of renewing the vows of marriage that joined you and forever binds you as husband and wife. Please celebrate this renewal of vows with a sign of affection…. You may kiss!

MUSIC

“Grow Old Along With Me” – Mary Chapin Carpenter

Below are sample vows that you can use for wedding vow renewals. You can personalize these vows and use them word for word or you can select the lines that you like and create an original vow for your ceremony. To make them yours, simply replace the X with the number of years you’ve been married, replace the (name) with your spouse’s name and select from either of the two words if you encounter a pair separated with a “/”.

Modern Religious Vow Renewal

Wife: We are here for a celebration.
Husband: We are here to celebrate love.
Wife: We are here to celebrate marriage — our own marriage which has endured for X years.
Husband: Today we celebrate those X years. We rejoice that the world/God brought us together and we had the good fortune to marry one other X years ago.
Wife: We have celebrated each other’s successes. We have comforted each other’s sorrow. For X years, we have lived and loved.
Husband: Today we celebrate the memory of all those years. We celebrate, as well, the hopes and dreams we hold for the years ahead. Most of all, we celebrate now, today, this special occasion which our love has earned for us.
Wife: It is a day of days, a time of times, a dream come true. Like all the other days of our lives, we celebrate it together.
Husband: I celebrate my love for you.
Wife: I celebrate my love for you.

Traditional Religious Vow Renewal

X years ago, I pledged my loyalty to you, (name), as your wedded husband/wife, to live together after God’s ordinance, in the holy estate of matrimony. I promised to love you, comfort you, honor and keep you, in sickness and in health. I further pledged that, forsaking all others, I would keep myself only unto you, so long as we both shall live. During these X years, I have been faithful to those pledges. Now, again, at the beginning of the X year of our life together, in the presence of God, in the presence of our family, and in the presence of friends who have gathered for this happy occasion, I renew these vows, pledging myself to continue my devotion to you as long as we both shall live.

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